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Restoring Fathers

The Love of the Father
By Michael Youssef

“How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!” (I John 3:1, NIV)

God gave us earthly fathers to emulate just a fraction of our heavenly Father’s love and care for us. Maybe your father was faithful to this model, and maybe he wasn’t. What’s most important is that we learn to fix our eyes on the One who created us and who can love us, as we were meant to be loved. Continue reading “The Love of the Father” »

By John Stallings

If you like to read cartoons you’ll probably be familiar with the character “Pigpen” from the Peanuts series.

Pigpen always had a cloud of dust spinning around him. It seemed as if he didn’t do anything to cause it. It didn’t require any effort on his part to create the cloud. He didn’t even seem to be aware of the dust. The cartoon and the character Pigpen wouldn’t have been the same without that dust cloud.

Have you ever met a dusty Christian? I have. As a matter of fact I’ve been a little dusty myself from time to time. Of course, we’re not talking about actual dust here, but the residue that can stick to us as we move through the experiences of life.

In Matthew 10:14, Jesus gave some superb advice to His followers when they were faced with those who didn’t embrace their message. He told them as they went to spread the good news, not to waste time or get involved in a debate, but to just “shake the dust off your feet” and move on to the next house or village. Continue reading “Five Types of Dust God Wants You to Shake Off” »

Be Careful Whom You Damn

It is true that the Scriptures often warn us against deception, and it is true that some preach “another Jesus” (who is not Jesus at all) and “another gospel” (which is no gospel at all; see 2 Cor. 11:1-4; Gal. 1:6-9). And it is true that many false converts will be shocked when Jesus says to them on that great and dreadful Day, “Depart from me” (see Mat. 7:21-23; 25:31-46).

All of us should examine ourselves to be sure that we are “in the faith” (2 Cor. 13:5) and all of us should be diligent to “confirm [our] calling and election” (2 Pet. 1:10), and this does mean falling into performance-based religious exercises but rather living out our calling to be God’s children (see 2 Pet. 1:3-11; this is our response to what God has graciously done for us).

At the same time, we need to be very careful about setting ourselves up as the ultimate judge of who is saved and who is lost—meaning, among those who claim to be followers of the Jesus of the Scriptures. Continue reading “Condemn Not! You May Be the One That’s Wrong!” »

zen-buddhism_symbolI was personally involved in Martial Arts, Karate in particular, for a number of years between the period of 1971 to 1991. My enthusiasm for martial arts even led me to successfully recruit other Christians to join me. Through the prayer ministry of the group Wholeness Through Christ, I chose to renounce my previous involvement in the martial arts. Previously, I was opposed to some of my friends dabbling in community centre yoga, but had rationalized my involvement in the martial arts as something innocuous. Continue reading “A Trojan Horse of Demonization: Taekwondo & the Martial Arts” »

Dr. Steven LambertThe JEZEBEL SPIRIT, is an evil spirit obsessed with domination and obtaining control in realms of authority, that operates through witchcraft/sorcery to achieve its goal. The covert operations of the Jezebel Spirit remains to be one of the most prevalent and dastardly problems in all of Christendom—in families and businesses of believers, churches/ministries, and every other arena of interrelations of believers—as well as in every segment of secular society where human relationships exist. In psychology, the effects produced by this demonic spirit are known as “narcissism,” or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) in clinical cases (see, DSM-IV). While as a deliverance counselor with Doctoral Diplomate Christian Counseling Board Certification, I personally believe effective therapeutic relief from the effects of NPD requires deliverance (casting out of demons), the Mayo Clinic has published an information-rich and enlightening article on NPD, which, due to unusual copyright restrictions I am constrained from citing, that you can read by CLICKING HERE. [See also “How To Identify A Female Narcissist” below this article.] The references in the Bible to two different women with the name “Jezebel” are portrayed by the Spirit as being classic narcissists. Continue reading “Exposing the Jezebel Spirit!” »

“Covenant Relationships” is a very familiar term bespeaking a commonly accepted concept in Pentecostal/Neo-Pentecostal circles, despite the irrefutable fact that neither the term nor the concepts it represents are found in Scripture and in fact are decidedly unscriptural. Moreover, the concept of human spiritual covenants was resoundingly debunked and denounced by one of the most highly regarded theologians and teachers the Pentecostal and Neo-Pentecostal streams ever had, who emphatically warned that besides the sacred covenant between the Lord and His disciples “the ONLY other valid covenant is that of marriage between a husband and wife,” and that the effect of entering into any other kind of spiritual covenant with humans “will be a CURSE!”

For more than three and a half decades, I’ve been doing all the Lord has allowed, anointed, and enabled me to do to set captives of spiritual authoritarian abuse free from the bonds of witchcraft, or the “yoke of slavery,” in which they are ensnared. I’ve spoken and written extensively in books and articles about the many profound spiritual and psychological effects hyper-authoritarianism inflicts upon its multitudinous victims. Continue reading “The Curse of Unauthorized Covenants” »

People can be so picky, critical, and ungrateful. I know — I’ve served them for more decades than I’d like to think about, and bear the wounds in my psyche to prove it!

You pour your heart out. You give unstintingly of your time and your energy and so often it goes unnoticed, unappreciated, or taken for granted. Even worse, you get picked at by some well-meaning — and some not-so-well-meaning — folk who feel that God has given them “the gift of criticism.” In truth they have the “gift of sandpapering the saints.” Thankfully this description doesn’t apply to ALL of God’s people! Continue reading “So This Is The Thanks I Get?” »

Charles Carrin is my dear friend. I know him personally, albeit far too briefly, having met him initially in the first part of the ’90s. Charles Carrin is the real deal, a genuine, Spirit-infused, Spirit/Fire-baptized, yet thoroughly humble “man of God!” Now an octogenarian for two years, he is a Spirit-ignited prophetic patriarch and elder-statesman to the Church Jesus is building, hailing from a by-gone and vastly under-appreciated era and personal wilderness experience but bringing forth with him a quality and quantity of wisdom manufactured and tempered in the crucible of trial, trouble, and tribulation that is not only rare, but genuinely rarefied. Words fail in attempting to describe the value and worth of “old soldiers,” in the words of General Douglas MacArthur, such as Charles Carrin, but perhaps the most fitting words are that he exemplifies the Scriptural phrase, “treasure in earthen vessels.” I regard him as one on the same plane as the likes of Tozer and Ravenhill to their generation. In this open-letter, Charles trumpets a profound, poignant, piercing, and powerful prophetic message to former fellows of a denomination he still cherishes that gave him the “left foot of fellowship” when he finally eschewed its warnings and teachings, accepted and obeyed God’s Word, and received the Father’s Promise of the Baptism in the Holy Spirit, after nearly 30 years of dedication to and ministry in that denomination. But, we publish this heartfelt cry because of its applicability not only to the constituency of that particular rapidly declining denomination, but also to many other denominations and sects of believers, as well as whole “movements,” who claim the name of “Christian” and a “name” of being alive, but are really spiritually dead (Rev. 3:1). I highly commend this letter to you for your reading and meditation—and then your weeping, mourning, repentance, and praying—as it pierces your heart. “If anyone has an ear, let him hear” (Rev 13:9). [Steven Lambert, Publisher] Continue reading “An “Open-Heart-Letter” to Primitive Baptists (and others)” »

By John Stallings

One second, and it happens! One careless mistake, transpiring in a fleeting flash of time, in “the fog of war!” The massive cannon is fired, and its deadly payload is screaming downrange locked-on to its intended target. There’s no way it can be stopped or retrieved now; its course is fixed and unchangeable. Problem is: YOU are the intended target, and its heading straight for you! And, the worst part of it all is that the person who fired it is a comrade, someone who was on your side. WHAM!! The missile strikes its mark and a ferocious and fiery explosion ensues! You’ve just been the unfortunate victim of every soldier’s nightmare — “friendly fire!”

But, this is not Gettysburg,  The Battle of the Bulge, Pork Chop Hill, Baghdad, or Afghanistan. This is one of the most mystifying kind of war — “The War of Christians vs. Christians!” I’m talking about the many “walking-wounded” in the Body of Christ who’ve been hurt by other believers, people who have been battered and bruised by the betrayal of a comrade, a bunker buddy — a fellow Christian. Much like Malchus, the man whose ear was severed by Simon Peter’s sword, you’ve been hurt by some who basically is a “good person,” a fellow believer, maybe even a family member. Continue reading “Hurt — How To Survive and Thrive When It Comes” »

This article is part 2 of 7 in the series Reclaiming Fatherhood and Restoring Fathers

Restoring Fathers

As stated in Part 1, it simply cannot be an accident or coincidence that the Old Testament concludes in the last two verses in the last chapter of the last book, Malachi, with this prophecy:

“Behold, I am going to send you Elijah the prophet before the coming of the great and terrible day of the Lord. And he will restore the hearts of the fathers to their children, and hearts of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the land with a curse.” (Mal. 4:5,6)

As I also stated at the beginning of this discussion, I believe the ultimate purpose of the prophetic, or at least the Elijah-type of prophetic ministry, those who operate in the “spirit and power of Elijah” (Lk. 1:17), is to restore fatherhood and reclaim fathers, both in the spiritual and natural realms. Continue reading “Reclaiming Fatherhood and Restoring Fathers (Part 2)” »

This article is part 1 of 7 in the series Reclaiming Fatherhood and Restoring Fathers

Restoring Fathers

“Behold, I am going to send you Elijah the prophet before the coming of the great and terrible day of the Lord. And he will restore the hearts of the fathers to their children, and hearts of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the land with a curse.” (Mal. 4:5-6)

The state of affairs in the world today wherein corruption and criminality is ubiquitous makes it evident that the land has been smitten with a curse as the prophecy of the prophet Malachi predicts. Indeed, we see revealed in these two verses culminating the Old Testament, the fundamental root-cause of all that corruption and criminality — a dearth of fatherhood.

History and sociological statistics tell us that wherever and whenever there is an absence of fatherhood there is an increase in sin and rebellion in the affected society, accompanied by a long list of resultant crimes and corruption that sin and rebellion inevitably engender.

The produce of a dearth of fatherhood in individual lives and collective society is disorder and disobedience of all sorts and kinds, both to God’s authority and God’s delegated authority — i.e., human authority — on earth.

Lack of fatherhood produces rebellion and lawlessness of every kind, which always strongly impacts every society and nation in which it transpires, not merely in a negative way, but a destructive way. The ultimate end of lawlessness is always destruction of the underpinnings that hold any society together.

Thus, the pattern is that fatherlessness begats lawlessness, and lawlessness begats destruction. “If the foundations are destroyed, What can the righteous do?” (Psa 11:3), the Spirit laments through the Psalmist.

Moreover, it is this destruction of the foundations of human society that has a profound part in causing the entire world to reel and “everything that can be shaken” to be shaken in this last hour.

The profound and far-reaching negative impact of fatherlessness is manifest in every segment of societies around the world today as well as in the church realm. Desperate beyond comprehension and expression is the need for Godly fathers to emerge in both realms to manifest the many positive and desirable effects that result only from the proper spiritual function of fatherhood! Continue reading “Reclaiming Fatherhood and Restoring Fathers (Part 1)” »

There now exists in the mental health realm an entire discipline related to trauma-related disorders and syndromes. Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome (PTSD) is perhaps the most known among non-professionals. It was first recognized as an actual mental health syndrome relative to military servicemen serving in combat during the “Vietnam Conflict,” which, incredibly and inscrutably, has never been officially recognized by the United States government as a “war.” The ramifications and tenacles of trauma, mental health scientists and professionals are continuously learning, are extremely far-reaching in the psychological make-up of individuals who suffered from it. Moreover, the numbers and demographics of those afflicted with various forms and degrees of trauma-related mental health problems are staggering and astounding.

The number one result of trauma to the human psyche, simply stated, is an inner “hurt” or “pain.” And the most common result of that hurt or pain is that “hurt people hurt people.” Without a doubt it is true. In fact there are untold myriad of people who’ve suffered from inward hurt their entire lives, some from cradle to coffin, to put it bluntly, who are so used to living with this internalized pain that they never come to a realization that it is there, and that it has had a far-reaching impact upon virtually every aspect of their life, relationships being the most affected aspect. Untold numbers of relationships — marital, familial, business, and every other kind of social relationship there is — have been either negatively impacted or completely destroyed as a result of hidden (occult) hurt. Those who suffer from un-discovered and un-treated hurt usually are the locomotive in a long train of decimated relationships, and as a consequence live a life of continual sadness, sorrow, self-loathing, solitude, and sometimes self-destruction. Continue reading “Why Hurt People Hurt People” »